Defeat is the act of being defeated, if a task or a problem defeat you, it always seems to be so difficult that you cannot do it or solve, however I want to tell you that it’s always an illusion when you think you can’t solve it or proffer any future solutions, you can turn defeat into victory, to be defeated is a natural phenomenon, some people however relate being defeated to failure.
It’s not true, defeats are always temporary whether you defeat someone/something or you’re being defeated, it’s always ephemeral, the one that seems to be unbearable to many is however to be defeated, it’s not always easy as some might even think less of oneself in most likely situation, the good news is therefore the fact that defeats are temporary and can be translated to victory, a victory which in contrary to defeat is a success in struggle, war or competition.The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of those depths. -Elisabeth Kulber-Ross Click To Tweet
It’s an undisputable fact that defeats unlike victory can be permanent, and defeats can be turned to victory if well looked into, in every defeat is an opportunity to reorganize your plans, when first you see defeat as temporal, it’s then that you’ll see the opportunity to reorganize and rearrange your plans in so many other ways, defeats no matter how many time they happen shouldn’t be seen as permanent, all defeats are temporary and can however be turned to victory.
How to turn defeat into victory
- Accept them as they come
The very first stage in the fundamental techniques of handling defeat and turning them into victory is to accept them, you don’t need to be feel unacceptable because of a defeat, the acceptance of something is also the agreement that it’s true, the act of saying yes to it or agreeing to it.
It’s however of utmost importance that you accept defeat before you can turn it to victory. You must understand, be sincere to yourself, of course we know clearly that if you didn’t accept something, it’s very much difficult for it to be handled.
Defeats are meant to be handled and the good thing about them is that they can be handled so correctly to the extent of converting them to victory, therefore it’s the act of recognizing, understanding, agreeing to a defeat that can lead one to the next process of turning it to victory. Always recognize, admit and accept defeat sincerely.
- Rebuild your plans
Planning is the method of achieving something that you have worked out in detail beforehand. If you plan what you’re going to do, you decide in detail what you going to do and you intend to do it, not all plans hitherto do work out as proscribed, it is out of this that you experience temporary defeat.
We all know how we feel when we intend to something in a particular way but it failed to work out, it’s okay to feel destabilized, it’s okay to be weary, it’s however not advisable to remain depressed or morose, the good thing about such happenings is that it has exposed you to other thousand ways to rebuild your plans, a plan,no matter how well organized can also still be reorganized in other thousand ways.
When people rebuild something such as a system or an aspect of their lives, they take unwavering action to get it back with more energized passion.
Plans can be rebuilt, when we plan for a particular thing and it didn’t work, we can still reconstruct such plan in another dimension, this can be repeated in so many times, Thomas Edison’s teachers said he was “too stupid to learn anything.”
He was fired from his first two jobs for being “non-productive.” As an inventor, Edison made 1,000 unsuccessful attempts at inventing the light bulb. When a reporter asked, “How did it feel to fail 1,000 times?” Edison replied, “I didn’t fail 1,000 times. The light bulb was an invention with 1,000 steps.”
Edison said he didn’t fail because he considered those shortcomings as a temporary defeat which opened his eyes to 1,000 or ways to rebuild his plans, I deliberately used his case as a typical example so that you can understand better that plans can be rebuilt. You must also come to the realization at this junction that Edison must have accepted a particular defeat before he rebuilt the subsequent plans. When things don’t go the way you plan, sketch another plan.
- Develop an unwavering courage
Courage is a quality shown by someone who decides to do something difficult or dangerous even though they may be timorous. It is an extraordinary bravery and fortitude to do the unusual.
Unwavering means to be strong ,firm and not weaken in any way, it’s important to develop such attitude after rebuilding your plans, after all your goal is to turn an accepted defeat to a sustainable victory, you must be very courageous and determined.
At the age of 21, French acting legend Jeanne Moreau was told by a casting director that her head was too crooked, she wasn’t beautiful enough, and she wasn’t photogenic enough to make it in films. She took a deep breath and said to herself, “Alright, then, I guess I will have to make it my own way.”
After making nearly 100 films her own way, in 1997 she received the European Film Academy Lifetime Achievement Award. It’s however worthy of note that if not for Moreau’s unwavering confidence and courage that she developed in herself, the lifetime award of the European Film academy achievement of hers would have been unrealizable.
In the process of turning a defeat to victory, do not underestimate the ability of an unfailing confidence and courage.
- Add perseverance
Determination, resolution, persistency, perseverance is the quality of continuing with something even though it’s difficult. The ability to continue with something especially that is difficult is not a thing of ordinary man, it’s an uncommon quality and it most be mastered by a giant that want to turn defeats to victory.
Experiencing defeats aren’t in any way a fascinating development but the deep driving desire to persist and continue even in a difficult situation is very crucial to translate defeat to victory. As a young man, Abraham Lincoln went to war a captain and returned a private. Afterwards, he was a failure as a businessman.
As a lawyer in Springfield, he was too impractical and temperamental to be a success. He turned to politics and was defeated in his first try for the legislature, again defeated in his first attempt to be nominated for congress, defeated in his application to be commissioner of the General Land Office, defeated in the senatorial election of 1854, defeated in his efforts for the vice-presidency in 1856, and defeated in the senatorial election of 1858.
At about that time, he wrote in a letter to a friend, “I am now the most miserable man living. If what I feel were equally distributed to the whole human family, there would not be one cheerful face on the earth.” He later triumph in life because he simply applied perseverance, no successful man today can ever speak less of the role of perseverance in their their success stories. It’s an irresistible quality of a successful man.
Research has shown that most people give up on their dreams and purpose in life because they mistake a temporary defeat to an unavoidable failure, defeats are always temporary and can be turned to victory if well addressed.
Above are the four solid points you can use to translate an unimaginable defeat to a landscape victory, if you also have other ways you can change defeats to victory, do yourself a uncommon favor by adding it to the above points and remain victorious in life.
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